Question by pookpunk: Adopting child from Russia?
What are the benefits and advantages when adopting from Russia?
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Answer by Grape~n~Piggles
I actually watched this show in tv…i think it was 20/20 or something like that. But anywho it was about people who had adopted children from Russia and the children turned out to have horrible behavioral and emotional problems due to the conditions they were in while in Russia. It is actually a scary thing to think about…these kids would freak out for no reason, beat on siblings or parents…the list goes on and on.
Answer by matkaantytto
They had some child abuse cases a while back from Canada and US dealing with Russian children so Russian cut off their adoption ties with North America. I’m not sure if it’s open again. You and your spouse would have to travel twice to Russia. I’ve been there and having Russian friends can also tell you there is a stigma to Russian orphans (many from alcoholic or drug addicted parents). Sadly, I remember seeing street children in St. Petersburg age 10-12 yr. old boys walking around freezing in the snow. The cities have wealth but the countryside in Russia is extremely poor (like Appalachia). They prefer married couples, and if you have Russian family or ancestry that *may* be a boost.
It’ll be more expensive to adopt internationally. In the end, you have to decide what is best for your family.
Have you thought about international? Many couples don’t want to wait 10 years for an American baby. However, most don’t realize that only means White children. African-American and biracial children are adopted 8x’s less than White children. (Most African-American couples who adopt happen to adopt nieces/nephews). You may also adopt American children faster if you choose a sibling set. I work with foster children (I’m a classroom teacher) and not all have emotional and behavioral problems and those that do is simply because of being bumped from house to house. Would you be willing to adopt an American child of a different race? Would you be willing to adopt a 4 yr. old (of your race or another) from America?
If you adopt a Russian child, will you be going back to Russia? Will you teach him/her Russian?
Answer by DevonChaos
Do you want to raise a Russian child so badly that you are willing to relocate? The child doesn’t deserve to lose their heritage and language, so it would be best for you to learn Russian and move there yourself.
Answer by ITS ME!!!
I am 11. My sister is adopted from Russia and let me tell you, it was hell. First, she came over for several weeks in the the summer of 04. She was 10 and didn’t speak any english at all. She was always bumping into people and saying mean things in russian. She then went back o Russia. Although she was mean and stuff, we then adopted her when i was in 2nd grade, which was probably 05 or 06. I got to go to St. Petersburg, Russia. The place was great, except for the orphanage. The director, Rbertovena, was extremely rude and mean. She made our trip to Russia not as enjoyable as we would have liked it. We then went back to my home town in Maryland. Several months later, we had to go back again to actually bring her back. Everything went fine for a while. We realized that she wasn’t picking as much english as we would have liked. Now,in 09, she just finished 8th grade and she has just been diagnosed with fetal alcohol syndrome and multiple learning disabilities. However, don’t let this unfortunate story of her stop you from adopting. You will make someone’s life better somehow.
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