Question by Katie: This is a question for Russian People who grew up or lived for many years in Russia.?
I am secretly inlove with a friend of mine who works for the Ministry of Interior in Russia. I met him in a bar in Nizhy Novgorod, the city where he was doing training with the police, then we exchanged email addresses and phone numbers. We find each other very interesting. We chatted for several hours almost everyday and write each other at least 2-3 emails per day. He recently flew all the way to the city where I currently live in South East Asia. It’s more than an 8 hour flight.
Based on what I’ve read, including Pushkin’s Evgeny Onegin, it’s not well seen in Russia for a woman to take the initiative, or make a declaration of “love” to the man.
Sergey, this guy I am secretly inlove with, is a rather reserved guy and hides his emotions well. He told me this himself in the beginning. I noticed that he is not the same person when he is alone with me and when his male buddy was there.
Many times he looked and stared at me in a way that is very pleasing and tender. I’d stare back at him in the same manner. I don’t want to jump into conclusions that “he likes me”. His friend, who only spoke Russian was often with us, so there was not really a chance for intimacy.
When it was time to say goodbye, I could see in his eyes and his actions that he was sad, even if he did not say anything. I wanted to tell him how I felt, but did not find the courage.
Now Sergey is inviting me to spend a long holiday at his place in Vladivostok by autumn of this year. I am going there. I really like him and we share a lot of things in common including social , political views and even wishes of starting a family. I would not even hesitate of moving to Russia if he would ask me to.
I don’t know what to do. Should I let him know that I like him? I’m affraid of his “would be” reaction.
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Answer by Yulia
Don’t worry, Pushkin’s era is long-gone, women in Russia have the same rights as men do, and you can take the initiative in your own hands, it won’t be strange, just normal:) Just tell him how you feel, I’m sure he feels the same way, good luck:)
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